Sunday, September 28, 2008
Monday, September 22, 2008
by Rainer Maria Rilke
The deep parts of my life pour onward, as if the river shores were opening
out. It seems that things are more like me now, That I can see farther into
paintings. I feel closer to what language can't reach. With my senses, as with
birds, I climb into the windy heaven, out of the oak, in the ponds broken off
from the sky my falling sinks, as if standing on fishes.
I stole this poem from another website. I liked it and wanted to remember it.
Two weeks in and the fog, the anxiety, the black dog is back.
Monday, September 15, 2008
The wind storm of 08...
We lost power about noon yesterday and it came back on about 5:30 today. Everything was closed down. 90% of the tristate area was without and there are still about 500,000 customers that have no power. We're off school tomorrow too. Very good since I have a bunch of stuff to catch up on. I just finished vaccuming and mopping the floors but the wash has been on hold for the last couple of days. I am finishing that off right now. I would like to have some time to relax tomorrow. I am pretty beat today.
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
It's time...
By the end of October, the house improvements will include:
New washer and dryer
New lawn mower
new weed eater
Waterproofing the basement
Getting new gutters
By the end of October I will have been smoke free for a whole year.
By the end of November, I will have been divorced (and still surviving) a whole year.
By the end of December, I will have lived on my own for two years and I am starting to settle in quite nicely.
As of yesterday, I have been at my gym for a whole year and aside from the week that I had kidney stones, and the week that I had strep, I have been at the very least, once a week but most often at least 4 times a week. You'd never know it because instead of losing weight, I gained it. As much as I have been eating, I probably would weigh 250 or more if I hadn't been exercising. Sigh.
What I did not do this year....
I didn't travel. Well, i went to Bloomington Indiana but that is only 150 miles away. I am thinking of taking a drive down to the Caves. I have never been to the western half of my state. I know it isn't like real traveling but who knows, I might get all froggy and cross the border to Missouri. I just might. I need a long weekend for this though. In Oct. I have a long weekend but it is going to be taken up with water proofing. perhaps spring break.
Saturday, September 06, 2008
If you feel you have been looking toward the past recently, dear Gemini, you have been doing it in order to liberate yourself from it. You may feel like revisiting your childhood or rekindling certain relationships with old friends. But the planets are making you a bit too romantic, and you will be disappointed by the reality of things. Looking backwards isn't really the best way to move toward the future. Nostalgia just isn't what it used to be!
Thursday, September 04, 2008
My gutters...
As you can see the gutters are white. The new ones are brown and I think it gives the house a more sophisticated look. More streamlined. I am thinking I am going to be in need of siding soon. If I do, I may go a more taupey colour. I didn't do any landscaping this year because all that is going to be torn all to pieces when they water proof the basement. I would like to eventually get a larger front stoop or maybe even a small porch. I also need some driveway repairs. That Rose of Sharon bush is overwhelming as is the burning bush. I will hate to be rid of the Rose bush because mom planted that. Truth is I never cared for those purplish flowers on it. They're not hideous or anything just I have seen some really pretty pale pink ones and I also like the white. I wouuld like to have a simplified landscape with pops of white. For colours, I can plant annuals (if they live).
When i start thinking about all the progress I have made on the house it makes me excited to do more. I have to pace myself.
Wednesday, September 03, 2008
Random thoughts.
What makes leaves change? Is it lack of light or is it the temperature? The leaves seem to be changing now but not for lack of temp.
Why hast thou forsaken me? why did people speak like that and why don't we still? Who uses the word shall anymore. SHALL?? I bet that sounds really funny if you're stoned. Kinda like Penguin. Penguin sounds funny regardless. Ok, so I have this issue with words. I keep meaning to make a list because some are just normal words that aren't all that offensive but for some reason make me want to hurt people. Here is an incomplete list....
Panties
moist (especially with the above)
Nipple
Vagina Everytime I see the name Gina, I think of Vagina too.
Volvo
Vulva
Christmas (don't like the esses or the mus sound)
Sippie
pimple OMG, I realize it must be the ipple thing I don't like
ripple
Chunk
rigor
That is all I can think of now but I will add to it when they come to mind.
In other news. Palin. How about that situation? Teen daughter gets pregnant and is marrying the baby daddy. Not horrible and certainly not stone cast worthy, HOWEVER...Do you wonder about someone who supports and pushes policies for abstinence only even when it fails in her strong family values home? I sure do. They call this a blessing. People are saying how great it is that her daughter is showing "pro-life" values and Palin is such a trooper for carrying her pregnancy to term knowing she would have a baby with down's. Great for them. But they're not any more heroic than the woman who choses differently because she needs to make something of her life to get out of the hell she might be in. And really, aside from abortion, the main issue is PREVENTING pregnancy. Abstinence only programs DO NOT WORK! I know six girls and one boy who have all become parents in the last three years before they graduated from high school. Guess what KY schools teach? Yup. Abstinence only. Our rate of teen pregnancies is higher than the national average. What kind of future do many of these girls have? These weren't girls that were sluts. These werent' kids that were bad. Some of them were promising athletes, artistically gifted, and intelligent kids that had wonderful futures ahead of them. They could have escaped their less than perfect home lifes but now they've trippled the odds of never getting out of there. It angers me.
I am tired and grumpy. It is 9 oclock and I haven't been able to focus all day. Even though I went off on a quasi coherant tangent, I am going to go back to being random.
Open letter to....the person I am thinking of.... Sorry you are having a rough time right now. Don't get pissy with me because I have responsibilities and can't drop them for you. You're making me feel used and that is leading to problems.
To the other you that I am thinking of. Your boyfriend called you a stupid whore. I was honest and told you I could not understand or wrap my brain around that. Today you complained because our friend sorta questioned the sanity of letting him move in with you. You're insulted that we don't like him. Your insulted that she doesn't think you're thinking things through. You're mad that some people aren't expressing happiness for you. Today i told you that it will be a long time before i would be able to look at him the way I did before. You acted shocked and asked why. When I told you he called you a stupid whore you forgot???!!!!! You will get mad at me too. I understand that. I am sorry that I just can't fake enthusiasm for you. Go to your other younger unmarried girlfriends for that kind of drama and pats on the back. When you want reality FOR REAL, then you can talk to me about J again.
Did I mention i was tired and cranky? Good night.
Monday, September 01, 2008
No dishwasher, but....
Here is the washer and pedastal http://www.samsung.com/us/consumer/detail/detail.do?group=homeappliances&type=washersdryers&subtype=washers&model_cd=WF328AAW/XAA
and here is the dryer http://www.samsung.com/us/consumer/detail/detail.do?group=homeappliances&type=washersdryers&subtype=dryers&model_cd=DV338AEW/XAA
So, altogether I got the washer and dryer, two pedastals, a warranty, and delivery/haul away for 1500. and some change. Not bad. They guy gave me 175 off of the clearance price and the two pedestals for 50 dollars each.
I also adopted a special needs rat. I didn't want to but I figured noone would take her. Besides, it gives Josie a companion. I swear this will be my last one.
Saturday, August 30, 2008
More home repairs..
Saturday, August 23, 2008
Passive agressive bitchiness...
I am going out. I think. Or I am going to bed. I dunno. I am even being passive agressive with myself. Yesterday i slept from 5-10 got up messed around a bit and then went back to bed about 1 and didn't get up until about 11. I should have gone to the pool today.
Sunday, August 17, 2008
It's the end...
Saturday, August 16, 2008
My new favourite place...
Wednesday, August 13, 2008
Quick update...
Anyhoo, I even assembled the bugger myself AND it had missing parts so that I had to go back to Home depot and get them out of another box(well, the manager did anway). I did it with no throwing things, No crying, and no swearing. And now, my back yard is BEEEEEAUTIFUL!!!! Plus, I have a manual (don't know what mike did with all the instructions for shit) and *I* can maintain it all on my own. I DON"T NEED ANYONE!! Power to THE KIKSTER!
Monday, August 11, 2008
LAWN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sunday, August 10, 2008
Yesterday and today...
Today I went for a long drive to old child hood haunts on route 8 by the river. I should not get nostalgic when I am hormonal, but what a perfect and beautiful day it was to do just that. I feel so peaceful...and tired... but not as tired as I had been. I did mention my thyroid medicines needed to be upped didn't I? They went from .88mcgs to 100mcg. I gained 10 lbs in two weeks.
Anyhoo, life is sweet.
Saturday, August 09, 2008
Dear blogger buzzz....
Thursday, August 07, 2008
Wednesday, August 06, 2008
Winding down...
I am still damn tired. I have an appt. with the doctor to go over my blood work. I will bet my thyroid meds need to be upped.
Tuesday, August 05, 2008
OMG! OMG! OMG!....
I am currently separated IM shier that's holding some of you back
understandably. I have been separated for 8 month’s and IM tying not to force
the divorce at this time I can go into more detail if you are interested. Really
IV felt alone for a few years now. IM not good at bragging I guess I consider it
arrogant witch buy the way is probably what I dislike most in people. But they
say to a lital so hear it goes. I am honest trust worthy and loyal very down to
earth what you se is what you get I always try to do the right thing even when
it heart’s I was raised on a farm to work hard long hours and never quit. Well I
still work hard seldom quit and not quite so many hours. I am self-employ in the
tool and die company I started I have built a successful business. Built my own
log house Built countless other machines and inventions and wood working
projects to say the least I like working with my hands. I enjoy the feeling of
accomplishment and satisfaction IM pretty mush building something all the time.
I have a wonderful daughter enjoy the time I spend with her. I enjoy travel a
lot of it on a Harley. Also spend most of the summer or at least the weekends At
a near buy lake on a 35 foot cabin cruiser IM kind of a quiet type it takes
awhile get to now me. I want to take more time off work now for fun and travel
IM 5 foot 5 165 lb. IM in beater shape then most I workout 3 – 4 times a week
jogging , tread mill and lifting weights . What I would want in a woman is the
same religious beliefs someone ho is willing to Work for the common goals ,
interests, work ethics, Decisive willing to make disions but not all I would
like a woman how is self-motivated hard working willing to do what it takes in
baseness and relationships. That enjoys travel and that is established enough to
travel. Likes the outdoors She would enjoy motorcycle trips, boating, living
abroad a boat in the summer she need to get along with others well, Some one how
likes organization and planing. She should be affectionate and not afraid to
show it. Some one to shear life and laftier with. No smokers no shop alcoholics
no control freaks no manipulators, no I wont you to day then not the next. I
have been down that road to many times. I would love someone ho would enjoy
helping me with Projects wood working boat maintenance yard work gardening a
woman who can se what needs to be don and dos it. I now it’s a long shot but a
woman that is mechanically minded would be perfect. Good communication is
essential
Saturday, August 02, 2008
Monday, July 28, 2008
Words like Us and We...
It has taken me nearly 15 months to stop saying We, Our, etc. when refering to my lifestyle and MY house. Not only because i shared this house with my ex-husband, but because i also grew up here and have the Our and We of my mom and dad. I suppose I am still safe in saying we and our and us since I share with cats and rat. Still, I get both horrified and enamoured when I hear those words being used by 16. For example, I got a text from him and I texted back saying I was at BBand B. He writes back, oh, buy us something. I quickly responded that i had found a Man Groomer http://www.mangroomer.com/Default.aspx even though he doesn't have a hairy back. I am hearing a lot of We(s) in the future tense as well. We're going to do.....We'll do this in October....blah blah blah. Oh yeah? I try to remain positive and think well yeah! Why can't I be a we or an us or have an our again? I am just as deserving as anyone else and lots of men don't do the rebound thing. I mean look at Mike. He's shacked right up with his first significant other after our split. Though he was the dumper so maybe his ego doesn't need as much repairing as 16's. Mine is pretty much repaired with a few cracks here and there that leak occasionally.
bah...
Number 15 emailed me today. He thinks just because I got back on match that i am available again. I let him know that I am not. I could hear the whining and bitterness in his response. Eh, it probably wasn't really there but for some reason the poor guy began to grate on my nerves really bad. And I feel bad for this still, which makes it all the more unpleasant. Wish he'd just not contact me or maybe I need to step it up on the bitch factor. I envy those women who are not afraid to be a bitch. That word still sits uncomfortable on my tongue and in my mind. Ok, it is 105am and I have to work tomorrow. First day at school for the summer program. I am tired and prolly not making much sense.
and random randingoes...
I love you
I miss you
and I have a cat kneading my ass right now...with claws. OUCH!
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Jersey boy..
HEY ASSHOLE...
Hey ASSHOLE!
When you see me waiting to pull into the empty spot next to your SUV, that is NOT the time to start goo gooing to your child in their car seat. Do that shit at home, I am not sitting in my car watchin you all dewey eyed and going aaaaaawwwweeeee. So don't look up at me and smile as if you've just brightened my day with sunshine, rainbows and puppies. Get the FUCK out of my way!
HEY ASSHOLE!
or this could be a HEY DUMBASS post... When you have tinted windows, you probably love them because you can pick your nose in private, scratch your balls, grab your GF's boob etc. Well, please remember that when we're at a stop sign and you decide to be nice and wave the motourist on ahead of you. WE CAN'T SEE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!
In other related asshole news...Ok, he might not be an asshole, but he's a guy and right now, they're all assholes...
I think number 16 is flaking out. He got into some huge fight with his STBX over the last few days and he is shutting down. I know what this means. It means....
I need to get my head straight
I need to find myself
I need some distance
I need some time
Yadda yadda, yaddah! insert whatever flakey cliche' people say when they start getting all fucked up and dramatic.
And so the criteria list grows. Normally I don't date separated people. They must be divorced already but I let my guard down on this one. Separated people are fucked in the head and you certainly don't want to be their first after divorce. I know this cuz I was there.
I want drama free. No drama with the exes. No drama with the kids. No drama PERIOD. Drama is only good to watch on Judge Judy because it makes you feel better about your life and how you are glad you're really not missing out on anything.
I know I jinxed myself because I told someone (irl) about how great the sex was. But it was damnit. I know I should not think negatively, but I have just seen this happen one too many times. We'll see if 17 will be around the corner. Whatever. I have things I have to do anyway and it doesn't include plans with others. I don't want to have to work at shit. Keep up or go away.
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
Songs I like...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JOpjdrK1GVc Boats and Birds
Anxiety
In other news, Sunday, my sisters came over and we had brunch at First Watch. Later we went shopping and really had a good time trying on clothes and basically being silly. My sister bought me an adorable shirt that is very flattering, fem, and dressy (for belated birthday). after they left, I went to the pool for about an hour. I love going to this pool because I don't feel like I have to stay there forever to get my money's worth (I don't pay extra for it and I would be at the gym anyway even if there wasn't this great outdoor pool). I was only there for an hour and it started to cloud up so I went home, felt very tired and went to sleep. About 7 PM, the house felt as if it was shaking and I woke up. I went downstairs and wind was going crazy. The sirens went off just as I turned on the TV so I gathered the cats and rat put them downstairs. I went back to the TV to see what appeared tobe funnel clouds and decided to join my pets. It was pretty scary, but about 10 minutes later it pretty much passed. I need to get a kit prepared for downstairs.
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Traveling dude...
Goodbyes make me sad though. It doesn't matter what kind it is. Good bye to the end of a book, the friendships, visitors that travel far to see you or you to them, lovers, those who have passed on, etc. Goodbyes are a loss. Temporary or permanent.
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
Ugh. Hormones...
I spent 200 bucks on a water heater today. If I were a guy, I probably would have been able to fix it myself. Yeah, shut up! I am the stereotypical girl when it comes to this kind of stuff. I get thrilled to death when I do anything remotely "manly" such as the yard work or filling my tank up with gas even. Isn't that a hoot considering when I was a kid I never felt fem.
Sunday, July 13, 2008
DG..No longer distracted...
I am craving a dirty gin martini with blue cheese stuffed olives...extra dirty. The Bone Fish makes a really good one. OMG. I need to find a friend to drag down there. I am tired. I spent the day at the pool again. The first time there was Thursday. Tomorrow I plan to go again, come back and do some stuff, then go back for weights and aqua-aerobics. Life is fucking GOOD right now...Even if I weren't hot and heavy with subject number 16,.
Wednesday, July 09, 2008
DG so far so good...
The date 15 called the other day and I really didn't want to talk to him. Thank god I am dog sitting and used that as an excuse to get off the phone. He emailed me yesterday asking if I was having a better day (I was pissed because I keep getting calls for this debt collecting agency and they have the wrong person!!) So, I emailed him back today and let him know that I had met someone. I took a page from Out of state-thought he was my soul mate guy, and told him that correspondence would be awkward and I hoped he understood blah blah blah. See, it is good to get dumped because then you can use the lines that were used on you :D Well, at least I wasn't lying all teh way. 16 is still way too new to say monogamy, but it at least sounds fairly legit.
Sunday, July 06, 2008
Gossip...
I don't even follow this stuff, but I have heard about this Kabballah shit only in name and it's association with Madonna. I don't even know who this A-Rod person is nor do I really care, but the one sentence of all this trash, that stood out for me was this...
Kabbalah's 3 million worldwide followers believe that none of people's bad traits are a result of their parents.
Traditionalists, however, have slammed the "religion," arguing it's more of a cult, selling $3 bottles of spiritual water claimed to have miracle healing powers.
Distracted guy...
Friday, July 04, 2008
Sickening feeling....
I hate that I want to be nice and not hurt someone's feelings. It is going to happen though.
Distracted guy called me (the day that I wrote that I didn't hear from him). He left a message on my cell phone which I never remember how to get and it takes me about a half hour to access it. I texted him back twice and he never responded. Today i had an email from him. It was from last night, wondering what I was doing at 11:45. WTF? I would like someone a little more interested in conversing or building a relationship or something other than feeling like a side thing to do when you're bored.
Whoa. guess I am feeling pissy on men eh?
Thursday, July 03, 2008
Wednesday, July 02, 2008
How many will it take?
Constant worry about disappointing someone
the pain of breakups
the disappointment of first dates
fighting
inequity in compromise
Oh foo foo on anyone reading this and saying that I am bitter or jaded, or sour graping etc. You're just up on a high time in your relationship.. I will never forget this chick who got really offended at Frank's 30th birthday party. I can't remember what i said but it was something to the effect of relationships aren't based on romance but lots of hard work or something like that. She was really mad and said that isn't true and stomed off. I wasn't even talking to her but she over heard my conversation (this was when i was happily married mind you). Anyway, she was marrying this boyfriend of hers that was there. They were all cuddly and fluffy with each other (gag). FFWD about 2-3 years and they were in the midst of a horribly bitter and nasty divorce. She looked like hell.
I never thought I would get divorced, but it was always in the back of my mind as a reality. I mean I guess I thought it would happen, but I wanted desperately to believe that we would beat the odds. I thought there might come a day but I didn't see it coming at all. No one goes into marriage thinking they will get divorced, but all should plan for it. If there ever is a next time, a pre-nup will most definitely be in order and they will never be able to get a hold of my savings.
Tuesday, July 01, 2008
Date number 15?
Distracted guy (who I developed a wild fantasy crush on based upon his pictures) never called again. We texted a few times, but he seems a bit flighty. He has a whiny kind of voice anyway which reminds me of one of the John guys I dated. That John reminded me of Conway Twitty and had weird breaks in his speech that made me keep thinking the phone went dead. He was also so incredibly messed up from his divorce. He was such a sweet guy, but just ooogey when it comes to thinking about....well, whatever.
So, distracted guy is not something I am counting on, but if he asks me for a date, I will consider it. He has freakishly large hands in his pictures, which I find strangely alluring? Must have big gloves eh?
Saturday, June 28, 2008
Uh, yeah.
Drama and dreams...
So, in my half sleep state hitting the snooze button until 12:30, I dreamed of mom. She was here visiting but from a time travel type of thing. When she left, I was not going to be able to follow. For some odd reason, she had knitted me some slippers and she was leaving (teleporting) through the refridgerator. When she was leaving I was crying and asking if she would be back soon. Either she wouldn't or couldn't answer. She had on a white robe and head-dress like mother Mary. She wasn't looking at me but she looked pained. She raised her hand slightly and then the door closed. In my dream Roxanne was in the other room. I was loudly sobbing and wailing. Roxanne asked why I was so sad and I told her that my friend had just lost her mother and I didn't want to lose mom. I thought for sure that when I woke I would have tears on my face. In the dream I could feel cool wetness on my cheeks. But my breathing was normal and no tears were there. Part of me didn't want to wake up.
Friday, June 27, 2008
colours...
Today I bought an MP3 player. Oh I am such a goober when it comes to technology. I didn't realize that I could play my CDs on my computer and transfer them onto the MP3 player. Yeah, I don't know why I didn't realize that. It truely is not rocket science, I know, but give an old gal a break. I figured out how to do this all on my own. Sure it was freaking easy, but I thought it was going to be some kind of huge magical mystery. I am proud of myself regardless. Baby stpes. Baby steps. Anyhoo, I am all downloading my favourite CDs so that I have music to walk to and music to work out to. The only problem is I know I am going to break out in a salsa esque, bustin' a funk move out on the sidewalk of the main thoroughfair. Either that, or I will start belting out some Joni Mitchell. Do you realize how bad that will sound? Noone can hear themselves sing with those things on and they ALWAYS sing out of tune, no matter how well they usually sing (to which I do not).
Wednesday, June 25, 2008
Nothing earth shattering...
It stings a little, to run into his friends. They're moving across town so i won't be seeing them ever again anyway.
So, the distracted guy called. He was surprisingly pleasant to talk to and way smarter than his profile let on. He lives only about two miles away, but he is hardly home. What is up with me FINALLY making connections to some people that I like and they're on the road more times than they're home? Le Sigh! Whatever.
Today i found a snake as I went for my walk. I wanted to pick it up but my luck it would have been poisonous and bit me. I am sure it wasn't. It was tiny and didnt' seem agressive. Since he was close to the road, I got a stick and pushed him further towards the grassy area. Then I think he went into a storm drain. :( I hope he is ok down there and will be able to find a way to slither out.
Swimsuits...
Dating: So there was this guy who's made contact with me a few times and I wasn't really interested. Blame it on hormones or something but I became interested and began to respond. He said he'd call me, he never has. He said he's been "distracted". Hmmmm. That does not sound good. It is either one of two things (possibly three)...Serious ex problems (no thank you), He's met someone else and is seeing how that's going to go but he doesn't want to let go of any other possibilities in case that doesn't work out...Ugh. Sorry, I aint your Hollerbackup plan. That shit's bananas. Or he's in legal trouble...ain't touchin' that with a 100 foot pole.
So, another guy that I saw at the end of May called and we went out on Mon. He later came over here and we hung out. He was leaving on Tues to go back to the east coast as he lives both here and there. Yeah, that could either be the most perfect relationship or the worst. He's a smart guy though and that turns me on. I mean come on, doesn't everyone think words like bi-pedal and talks of the anatomy of a virus are sexy? No? Ok, so i am weird like that. Geeks turn me on. And he's not bad looking either. He's 48 but looks much younger. Lot's of red flags though including three children by three different ladies. Seems he likes to make babies but doesn't like to stick around. He isn't a dead beat but really, how much of a father can you be when your children are scattered in two different places? and he wants to have more children and have a "real family". Just what is a real family? Are those children not your 'real family"? I know he loves them. He talks about them a fair deal (not to the point of boredom though). I dunno. In the tween time and when I am bored, he'll do. As I think about a life with someone though, all I really want to do is physically RUN and run fast away from the sitch.
I am starting to run now. It is fun and does wonders for my mind and body. It releases some kind of seretonins or whatever happy shit chemical that is in your body. I see why people get addicted to it.
I am going to look for swim suits now. Then I will go work out, swim, come home and maybe run.
Monday, June 23, 2008
Today's horoscope...
Today you won't be able to spend a nice cozy day at home, but you probably were aware of that already, dear Gemini. Today's aspects bring a great deal of change into your life, including more openness to other people. Since you care so much about creating a nurturing home environment, why don't you think about sharing it with other people? Give a little bit of yourself, a little of your fantasy.
Cuz sharing my house with three cats and a rat doesn't count? Ok maybe it doesn't and I have been thinking about being a foster parent, but....Ok, I will at least wait until I get my basement waterproofed. Even though i have a nice sized house with two empty rooms and an empty bathroom, I just don't know about sharing my house with an actual person again. I really like being able to do what I want when i want and how loud I want.
In other news, check out this nasty email I got on match...
I must asume that you feel that you are to good for me or something. Or maybe you are just a rude bitch. Anyway, I am done on this site for losers on the 30th. You have till then to come to your senses or to rott with the scum on this site. I have thought so much more of you than this.TIM
Why yes Tim, I do feel I am too good for you and I really don't care that you think I am a rude bitch for *gasp* ignoring a wink. Oh good heavens! And do you REALLY think that I am going to "come to my senses" and now contact you? Good god. That little email speaks volumes about your character Tim...Insecure, childish, redneck, jerk. I have been ignored plenty of times on dating sites. Newsflash. You're not going to be everyone's cup of tea. Get over it. Grow a thicker skin ya pissy little bitch.
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
In addition to Babba wawa's philosophy...
odds and ends...
Richard, you're gone. Wish you well, you ass.
First guy post divorce (John). I know you're around and I can get a hold of you any time. I did let go of all the sweet emails you sent pre your flaking out on me. You're such a turkey but I still like you.
Mike. I still have a few of your e-mails. I don't know why I haven't been able to let go of them yet. I don't even know you anymore and I don't think I would really like you much anyway. That is such a weird feeling considering you were my family for 10 years. Oh well. I still have your dad's flag. You've never gotten back to me about the flag switch. I really don't care. It is just a symbol. I will keep the flag I have, well and in good shape. It will remind me of Nick, and whatever becomes of the one you took (Nick's) I suppose it doesn't matter. It is all from the same cloth, so to speak. Oh, I dreamed of you last night. You wanted to say you were sorry and that you wanted to be friends. You had your hair cut in this ultra trendy style that was far too young for you. You looked desperate to be holding on to some kind of youthful persona but your eyes looked tired and haggard. You looked sad and lonely. I didn't feel bad for you but I also didn't feel joy in my dream either. I wouldn't want to be your friend. You don't know what that means. I do hope you're happy but I would really like for you to stay out of my head.
Barbara Walters...No, I didn't get email from her, I am switching gears. I saw her on Ellen today. I don't normally listen to her glurge but Ellen asked if there was anything she could have changed from her "tumultuous" life (my words not hers, but that is the sentiment that Babs book is portraying...Oh please!)...what would it be? Such a profound answer in it's simplicity, Babs answered that she would have tried to be happier or something like that. Basically saying she would have taken the time to be happy, to MAKE happiness, to LIVE a happier life. That is what I am going to do. I am not going to be passive about it.
Sunday, June 15, 2008
Another weird dream...
What is up with the weird dreams I wonder? I hardly ever dream and now it seems I dream fairly regularly. I suppose I will dream of dinosaurs or zombies tonight eh? Or will it be the stress dreams of missing that history class until finals week or losing my teeth...or the waitressing dream. Or maybe I will dream of my mom. I think I've jinxed myself now. I will probably combine all of them. Wouldn't that be a little odd.
Saturday, June 14, 2008
Online dating dont's
Group photos:
Don't make me guess which one is you. I might be really disappointed thinking I am meeting the hot friend and it turns out to be you.
Photos of scenery:
WTF cares? I don't want to see pictures of : flowers, trees, the places you've visted, your car (WTF?), your harley etc. If you want to include a picture of your home, that might be acceptable so I know that you don't live in a van down by the river. But really, I am not impressed if your house is a typical Milk Carton Valley home or if it is a restored one of a kind Victorian, or if it is a freaking mansion. If you take photos in your home though, I will be checking out the background to see if you have at least a modicum of style. If I see precious moments, teddy bear borders, a singing fish, or the damn bird clock, you lose serious points...Unless, you have it juxtaposed in a way that is fashionably kitsche. That takes a lot of creativity and a good sense of humour to pull off so you get bonus points for that.
Kids and pets:
Yes, they show a sensitive side. However, too many pics of your pet and only one or two of you are not acceptable. I am not looking for companionship with your animal, I have four of my own who suck the life out of me already. Kids...If they're yours, I wanna see them. Why? because if I ever do decide to procreate (highly unlikely) I wanna make sure you have some good looking offspring. Otherwise, ugly babies are likely to be left on a cliff to survive the elements ala spartans. Even if I don't decide to have kids, I don't want to be embarrassed by your uglies. Please make sure they are clean, well groomed, and given a little extra care if they are in that awkward stage. I am not cleaning up that mess. :) If they are NOT your kids, I don't want to see them. It seems a little over kill when you don't have children to be hamming it up with the token child here and there to prove you're daddy material. I don't give a fuck.
Body types:
Don't state that you are looking for someone who is athletic and slender and then wink at me. It clearly states on my profile that I have a few extra pounds. Depending upon how shallow you are, a few extra pounds could be a size 8 to you or a size 18. I fall in between. Either way, if you haven't stated that a little chunk is ok with you, I would constantly be thinking...Do I look fat in this? Is he noticing my roll? Should I really order desert? I won't be contacting you if I don't see that chunky girls are ok in your book.
On your own body type...Be sure you have something to offer if you are going to suggest that chunky girls are not attractive to you. That double chin of yours and lack of a neck suggests that you may want to change your own profile from athletic to a few extra pounds. And I am ok with baldness, a few extra pounds, etc. Just be honest about your body type or double check with a friend about your self perceptions.
Grammar:
I am not perfect but I do expect some kind of punctuation knowledge. Don't type in all caps (why are you yelling at me already?) Spell check...it is a good thing. Periods, spaces, commas, all necessary. Complete sentences are structurally necessary too, though sometimes you can get away without them to make a point. Only one per paragraph or so. Speak with proper grammar.. Hey baby I seen you lookin at me is not good. Too much wrong with that sentence to go into.
Education:
I have a graduate degree. I don't care if it makes me snobby, I don't care how much money you make. I clearly stated that I want someone who is educated and preferably has, at least, a bachelor's degree. If you have a shitty, incoherent profile, make 35k or less, and a highschool education, don't bother. You have nothing to offer me. OTOH, if you have a wonderful, creative profile, make a decent living and are driven, open minded, culturally aware but only a high school ed, I might consider you. Sometimes life experience counts just as much as an education and sometimes even more.
Cliches:
Avoid them. Glass half full, etc. Some cliches are just part of life. It is ok to say you're a happy person. It is ok to use phrases such as I want someone who knows what they want and who they are.....HOWEVER, only if you have the character to back that up. You had better know what you want and you had better know who you are to an extent. I realise that no one can be 100% on that and if you are, you're not evolving and stagnant is bad, always. Don't tell me you're honest to a fault. Everyone lies. You do too, so there goes that bragging point. Humble thyself.
Oh, pictures again:
A variety of dress would be good. I don't want to see pic after pic of your rippling muscles in shirtless poses (though I might come back to visit your profile just for the eye candy). Casual tees and wifebeaters...also not accpetable in every. single. picutre! Please have a variety. I want to know that you have a suit for nice evenings out. I want to know that you are not so stuffy that you don't have a pair of jeans or shorts. And ok, the occasional chest shot is good.
Hope this was helpful.
Friday, June 13, 2008
Dream...
In my dream I was holding a very large knife and Mike was fearful I was going to do something with it. I don't know why I was holding it but I remember being insulted that he thought I would care enough to be violent. I told him the house was mine and he needed to get rid of the cabinets and bring back the old ones. He was at a loss and pissed because he thought he had done such a wonderful job. Plus I guess because he knew he would owe me money. Oh, I never have gotten the 2,000 dollars he told me he would pay. I never will. That is ok. Goes more to prove his character than anything else and helps me to realize he wasn't anything near the man I thought he was. Anyhoo, I pretty much woke up then.
If I am going to analyze why I dreamed this, I would have to chalk it up to boredom and my demon I was fighting yesterday. He was on my mind for no apparent reason other than, I guess, I wasn't living up to my own potential and occupying my own time. I also curse him because of the damn lava rocks and I am thinking I really need to get rid of them around the house because when it gets to waterproofing, those are all going to have to be dug out and I DON'T want them getting burried in the back fill. And I think about all the shit he tried to improve here but really fucked up even more (like the basement perimiter when he tried to do his own water proofing). After 10 years of marriage, I got a great deck, I got to meet my father, and I got through school with his help. What did he get? Freedom to experiment with career options (or lack there of) free room and board for a while, trips to San D and a luxurious lifestyle when we visited my dad, a loving wife who always put his needs first and cared about his happiness, health insurance. And money. Lots of money that didn't belong to him.
I am better off now than he ever will be in all ways. Mostly because I have character. He doesn't.
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Number 13 on the 13th..
The demon that i am fighting today
I want to live as simply as a Monk. Let no worldly possessions tie me down...well, except for the multi coloured packs of sharpie markers. And glittery, shiny stuff. And then there are the damn cats and the rat. Ok, but all that stuff is worth it, not that I consider my living four-legged companions stuff.
Financially I am great. I just got paid for the summer and worked out a budget. I got the ball rolling to waterproof the basement. It is going tobe about 13K. I look at it as a car payment except that it doesn't depreciate. I really need to get out of this fear of spending money. Sure it is good to save, but come on! Balance chick...BALANCE! Do what needs to be done without feeling guilty and have nice things that you want without feeling guilty.
Saturday, June 07, 2008
Today is...again...
A rainy day
a calm day
A quiet day
A Clean day
A sore day
A sweet day
A nostalgic day
A vacation day
A work at home day
A healthy day
Wednesday, June 04, 2008
Life is good. I am still on a high. I don't know why... there are no romances in the air, I am still alone, but all is beautiful.
Sunday, June 01, 2008
Peace...
I am happier today and in the past few weeks than I have been in years. And this time it is not by the actions of others...it is a different kind of happiness. I love my life.
Monday, May 26, 2008
Life is good...
To be me
To have conquered the lawn equipment
To be loved
To be able to love
To be a part of this world
To be healthy
To be employed at a job I love
To be beautiful
To be soulful
To be happy
To be
To be
To be!
Sunday, May 18, 2008
I like this quote...
with every goodbye i feel relieved. my life begins again. i learned to love goodbyes.
It was in response to a post card that said You learn...With every good bye, you learn.
Friday, May 16, 2008
The secret...
I want to remove negative words from my vocabulary.
Instead of saying I am trying, I want to say I am practicing or I am getting better at...
Instead of saying no, I can at least start saying maybe.
When I don't want to do something that I know is good for me, I will talk myself into the results that I will see once I do the act that is beneficial. An example of that would be when I don't feel like going swimming. I ALWAYS feel better once I have done it. There is no drug that can substitute the feeling of excercise.
My basement flooded again. Tomorrow I will spend the day cleaning and disinfecting. My plan is to call a professional and have it waterproofed. It isn't a luxory, it is a necessity if I ever choose to move. In the mean time, I don't plan on moving so it would be nice to finally have that as usable space. It is a win win situation and worth the money.
Sunday, May 04, 2008
Of men and lawn...
I cut the grass today and weeded around the front where the bushes are and the great bare spot that used to house the old scraggly bushes. I cursed Mike again for deciding that lava rocks would be a good thing to put there. Yeah, because my fucking yard isn't rocky enough. How do I dispose of them? do I just put some in bags to dispose of every garbage day? Maybe. I dunno. It seems like such a waste of plastic and environmentally unsound. Do I get a big garbage can and wash them off and try to sell them for the yard sale? Ugh. They're everywhere. Not only that, but I have noticed the ones that are on the hill are contained by those "concrete" stones that Mike made and he inspector gadgeted them right to hell with Big fucking nails sticking into them. That's an accident waiting to happen and will probably happen on MY foot. It is going to be a job, but I WILL get that yard looking good. If I have to hire someone, then I will, but after that initial work is done, then I should be good to go. I know I am going to need a tree trimmer. I have a lot of trees that are probably going to need to come down. I just have no idea how much this stuff is going to all cost.
Saturday, May 03, 2008
lesson today....
Today's Gemini Horoscope: May 03, 2008
Key into your sensual, beautifying nature, dear Gemini. Take time each day to attend to your soul and make sure it is getting the nourishment it needs to radiate boldly out onto the world. Unexpected people are likely to pop up out of nowhere, so don't be surprised if a former lover comes knocking on your door. Things from the past may be coming back to the present reality in order to teach you a valuable lesson about life.
Saturday, April 26, 2008
mind clutter?
To switch gears, I ran into a friend of Mike's today. Of course I am looking like hell with no make up on, bloated and fat as hell. This guy, K, hadn't seen Mike except once in 2 years he said. We talked a little about how Mike just up and left with so little warning. He told me Mike had done the same to his sister and that was pretty much what Mike was all about. I am better off, I know. I wonder what my life would have been like had I not met Mike. I think it has actually been ok. There are a lot of opportunities that I have had because of him when I really think about it so all was not wasted.
My allergies are in high gear right now. Seems early, but maybe they will be gone early too? I hope. I bought an extention cord for the hedge trimmer today and I trimmed up the bushes around the house. They're pretty goofy looking. I finally figured out how to get the weed eater started and then the string was done. Now I can't get the knob off to change out the string, nor could my neighbour. I will take it to the Home Depot and see if they can fix it for me. I would like to get an electric one because of enviornmental concerns and cost. They're also lighter weight and I don't want all that gas stored in my garage.
Only three more days of state testing and then it will be all down hill at school. I will be working the summer fair the last weekend in may/1st of june! I am excited about that.
Sunday, April 20, 2008
No Truer words...
If you analyze your life, you will see that it has completely changed over the past twelve months, dear Gemini. You have matured as an individual, and your actions have only been beneficial to yourself and those around you. Try to make changes as often as you can. You can't stop now! You need to feel that your life is evolving all the time. There is no time to rest! More...
Saturday, April 12, 2008
another good bye...
There's been no contact or return of text messages or emails or phone calls. No effort in this early stage so I believe it is done. He lost that lovin' feelin' whoa that lovin' feelin'. It makes me sad. It also takes off pressure of the distance and figuring out how that was going to work. It could have worked if we wanted it bad enough. The thing is, now I am afraid I am going to lose all the wonderful inpiration I got from knowing him. Maybe I really didn't fall for him. Maybe I fell for his style. I dunno. He was like I would like to be. Now that I am rejected though I have my doubts about whether or not I am supposed to fit that life. Why do I need someone else to change? I am not a chameleon. I am myself. I need to learn to be myself.
Wednesday, April 09, 2008
Today is...
a mild day
a venting day
a wild day
a boring workout day
a sore day
a tired day
a nostalgic bittersweet day
Sunday, March 30, 2008
Things should go especially well for you today, dear Gemini, so don't worry about a thing. Life doesn't necessarily get easier as you get older; you just learn to deal with things better. You will find this to be true right now, as your incredible sensitivity and wisdom is making it possible for you to attain a greater perspective, and realize that things are much better than you may have first thought. More...
I just got back from a wonderful weekend with a very special person. 150 miles away. I hope this horoscope is in reference to how to cope with distance and that things are maybe going to get better in that department. He's the best thing that has come about in a long time so is 150 miles really that much of an issue?
Tuesday, March 25, 2008
What I have learned...
I am having serious doubts that things would work out with this man living in another state. I think there has been much harm in expressing our doubts to each other that we've killed any blossoming future. Aborted it before it could even get to the quickening stage. What I have learned though, is that the future is so very uncertain. I learned that in the most devastating way the last year and a half, however, I now realise that in the most potentially positive ways, the future can also change. It might not happen this time around, but who knows what lies ahead? The more stuff you have tying you down though, the less opportunity you have to move forward. I have to learn to be free of stuff. Free of the past, free of anxiety. I need to put it in action.
Monday, March 24, 2008
I don't have time...
I don't have time for pain
I don't have time for crying
I don't have time for love.
Sunday, March 16, 2008
Colours and fleeting light

So the paint job is circa late 80s to early 90s.
You know, the sponge paint fad that was often done very badly. My mom
did this peach colour sponge first. I guess it was 1988. The living
room was done in bright peach too. She later went over the peach with teals
and sea green and the living room was painted a deep rich peacocck green.
I remember spending hours in that dark green room feeling so depressed and
sad. So I painted everything white. I did keep the sponge painted
dining room though. It was done well and it reminded me of New
Orleans. Today there was a moment of sunshine that shone through. It
was beautiful and I know I have seen this in many forms before, some more
beautiful than this. I always think this is the last time I will ever see
such beauty of light. Just like I always look for rainbows after a
storm or in the spring time, I try to soak in as much of the bright spring green
grass and leaves after a storm that my eyes will take. I know that
there will be more beautiful things to see. Some will take my breath away
and some will never compare to what I have in the past seen. I look forward to
it all nonetheless.
Saturday, March 01, 2008
Your social life could really blossom with the alignment of the planets today, which will present chances you could not have imagined coming to you could suddenly be discovered right on your doorstep. Don't pass an opportunity by just because it doesn't appear the way you think it should. Love comes in many surprising packages and cannot be determined by looks alone. Allow the bizarre and unusual to move you.
Today's Gemini Horoscope: Mar 01, 2008
Today you might find yourself hosting an impromptu social event, dear Gemini, and more people could show up than you'd initially counted on. Don't worry about it, however. The party should be enjoyable for everyone even if the place is a bit crowded, and your visitors are apt to look out for themselves. Among the unexpected guests might be an attractive, interesting person who might shape up to be a potential love partner. Relax and enjoy your day.
sigh. But tomorrow is the day that I meet my (at least on the phone) soul mate for the first time.
I got a new camera yesterday. I am stoked. I have to figure out how to upload the pics on the puter.
Friday, February 22, 2008
Today's Gemini Horoscope: Feb 22, 2008
Take advantage of the lighthearted, flighty feeling of the day, instead of getting annoyed by it, dear Gemini. You can't stay hiding in your bedroom forever. Well, you could, but basically you will end up rotting away and no one would even notice. This is a good day for you to get out and have fun with friends. Make life-wishes for people instead of cursing them. Make connections, and remember to laugh a great deal.
Wednesday, February 20, 2008
Sigh...
To top it all off, the guy that I had talked to on the phone Friday, informed me that he thinks he met his match on Saturday and he was interested in persuing this. I don't know if I had written about him or not, but he winked at me in early dec. on match. I wasn't sure if I was interested so I ignored. Come around January I had been on a couple of dates so I emailed him a Happy new Year email. Nothing really came of it. In Early Feb or Late jan. I emailed him again and asked how the dating thing was going for him.. We joked about how we'd both had many first dates but nothing seemed to be sticking. We tried to set a few things up but he got sick or the timing was off. So he called Friday and was very easy to talk to. Of course I was ill then so no plans could be made to do anything and I knew he had this date on Sat. anyway.
I don't know why, but I cried when I got his email of rejection. He is only recently separated/divorced, as in less than a year, and seems very eager to get into a relationship,. That should send warning signs. Oh, and this is going to be really really shallow, but he had a "bird clock" hanging on his wall, and a few kind of cutesie knick knacks around. Kind of that Walmart country decor.
Yes, I want someone. I want to have that sense of belonging again and feel romantic and loved, and secure. But am I thinking of settling? Are my expectations too high?
Now, david...The semi long distance contact...I wonder if there is anything there besides the physical. Hell, I haven't even seen him in person yet but physically, sexually, it is ON! There is hardly any conversation on the phone though. I am thinking he might just be in it for the sex. Completely not what I want.
another lonely and depressing day.
Sunday, February 17, 2008

Thursday, February 14, 2008
Happy Valentines day....
I got a piece of mail for Mike Dated Feb 5th, and I opened it thinking it was junk. It was from his retirement account and it was addressed to the both of us so it really doessn't count as snooping. Most times I just throw them away but this time I decided to open it (there were two). Both were to confirm address changes from my address here (one just had his name on it so I assume he told them that I needed to be taken off). Instead of listing the address he has with Gina in her new condo though, it lists a NEW address in another county. Hmmmm. I wonder if he has moved away from her or if they bought a house together. Funny, he always said he would never buy a house in this address area because of the traffic. I know there was a guy he worked with (in that county) who wanted Mike to rent his home while he lived in Fla. but when I did a reverse search on the addy, it doesn't even come up. I dunno. I can't imagine Gina moving from another state to here just to have to sell again. Plus, their condo had three bedrooms so it isn't like it was tiny in case they're expecting (which wouldn't surprise me). So he has moved three times in a year.
When I got the letter, I was crushed. It was yet another sign of my life seemingly being out of control. I didn't know what this man was doing after 10 years of having that right to know. Does that make sense? I cried all day...again. I don't know why it upset me so much. It didn't even occur to me that it could mean they aren;t together anymore. It was last Sunday after my who knows how many first date failures, that I was driving home and an overwhelming sense of peace and forgiveness toward him came over me. I don't know how to explain it. Usually after a date flop I get all emotional again, longing for that companionship and security that I thought I once had. This time I didn't. When I realized that he may have broken up with her, I didn't have that smug satisfaction. I felt kind of bad and sorry for him. I was almost tempted to call him and let him know that he was forgiven. I didn't. Maybe partly because I didn't want it to be seen as a weakness in that I was desperate to have him back. Maybe because I didn't think he really deserved to know. It was a quiet forgiveness for me. I have the address. I haven't had the urge to drive by and check things out. I only drove by the gina house once when I found out. Maybe I am getting better.
I am writing a guy who about an hour away. We do IM with the web cam. He's into art and makes a living as an artist. He is very cute by my standards...Actually my dream guy physically. We're supposed to meet this weekend though i don't think I can make it. We've had two snow days and I took a day off work because I was ill. There is a lot of catching up to do but then again, i just forgot we have a three day weekend. Maybe I CAN afterall.
I renewed my gym membership for a whole year this time. I can't believe six months has already nearly come to pass. We only have about 13 weeks of school left. Wow!. I have cabin fever and a little bit of Spring fever right now. Overall, life is good.
Sunday, February 03, 2008
Separation anxiety...
The second dream I had involved her moving away and not leaving a forwarding address. Again, I felt so alone, empty and incredibly sad. For some reason half way through the dream it became Roxanne (my sister) that left. In some ways that was even worse.
Last night was interesting. Mom and Nick were both alive and moving out of the house because they had bought a really nice house close by. I was packing my stuff....It was a bunch of looose and small things that I was stuffing into various containers that didn't have lids, or the bags were too flimsy to hold it. I remember being at risk of all of the things I packed being spilled onto the floor and scattering all over. Midway through my packing ordeal I realized I had bought this house and that i was happy to live here. I did not want to go with them and was relieved. There was still a part of me that was sad to see them go but the overall feeling of the dream was one of peace.
I remember having dreams of Nick after he died. There was one where he was going away for good. I don't remember dreaming of him again after that. I don't want my mom to go away. I don't feel her here though. I haven't since shortly after her death. Maybe this is her way of telling me that she is still here. I don't know. Maybe she is telling me that I will be ok, suck it up and deal with life.